How to be more deserving of love?

We all deserve to be treated right and given the purest form of LOVE from everybody we meet in the universe.

Few centuries ago slavery, racism were normalized - today the human race is getting back to their senses.

Most of what you think you don’t deserve is what someone who is not broken is getting as the bare minimum.

We met a friend recently and she was all glowing. When we asked her what the secret was – she said she just started taking care of herself more.

How? She became more cautious of what she ate, exercise routines and watched her stress levels.

Key take away - Stop using junk food or feeding your mind toxic media (bad news or porn) when you don’t feel good .

Learn more: How to start taking care of yourself?

When you give yourself enough attention, self-love and treat yourself right – you don’t get all surprised when you find others doing the same.

Love begets love, so the more loving you are, the more likely you are to be loved in return.

This is something you can’t shy away from. Most human relationship are exists symbiotically to function long-term.

If people and even yourself keep wondering what “you’re bringing to the table” then you’re going to feel less deserving of love from others all the more.

Showing love to others comes in various form – make it as appropriate enough to fit whatever context.

You can give your time, energy, resources etc. Check out my post on different ways you can give without spending money.

Giving of your time, energy, and resources shows that you are generous and caring, two qualities that can make someone more deserving of love.

Self-doubt can make you feel short in various aspects of self-confidence and acceptance.

Self-doubt is when we start to question ourselves, our beliefs our thoughts️ .Therefore we sabotage ourselves with negative talk like:

"you can't do that!" "you don't deserve that!"

If you suffer from Self-Doubt, realize you’re not alone . Everyone of us has doubt.

You have to step forward .

Don’t let doubt prevent you from living out your dreams. Gotta learn to believe in yourself and stop doubting yourself.

If you don't control your insecurities, they will drain all of your strength. Acknowledge that your insecurities are keeping you from living the best life possible.

Insecurity is a major turn-off for most people, so work on ridding yourself of any insecurities you may have.

Work on letting go of your insecurities and reinvent yourself.

Sometimes we don’t just doubt ourselves but look down on ourselves. We think someone else is better than us. And so when they show love to us instead of showing appreciation – we think life is unfair.

What we forget is no matter how someone’s life appears perfect outside they still struggle with various imperfections inside which they may never share outside.

Happiness is free and comes from the right mindset and is key to feeling good about yourself and developing intrinsic joy.

Affirmations are one of the most powerful things that exist as words shape how we see ourselves.

Say to yourself:

- I’m attracting wonderful things today

- I love myself; I love my body; I love my mind; I love who I am.

- I am enough.

- I am unaffected by the judgment of others.

- I am strong. I am wanted. I trust myself.

When people compliment you

- Learn to say “thank you” like a child again

- Use statements like “I appreciate, you.”

Don’t shove your primary responsibilities to others and don’t try to pick others.

I can’t forget a story in the book “Boundaries” where some parents were complaining to the author in his practice how they keep doing everything for their son not to fall into trouble even when he does wrong.

They ended with a statement like – “our son has a problem with taking responsibility.”

And the author corrected them – “No, You have a problem with taking your son’s responsibility”

They weren’t allowing their son face the repercussions of his poor choices and so he kept doing it over and over again.

If you keep shoving your responsibility to others – you’re always going to feel entitled to their love which is entirely different from accepting love given generously from others.

Avoid believing that you are unworthy of happiness, genuine love or that you will never be successful.

If anything, you certainly deserve a reward for working on yourself.

You deserve acknowledgment for your work and commitment to turning things around in your life. Celebrate each time you take a step toward the outcome you wish.

Revel in your successes.. Sometimes you have to be your own biggest cheerleader.

Being supportive means being there for someone during the good times and the bad – it shows that you truly care about them.